I read a bolg today that hit home. How often do we as friends/family write things on our blogs knowing that the peson we want to get the message across to will read it?
How often do we judge other people and think to ourselves that if we were in a situation we would handel it perfect? Well I know I have done it before. The thing is, is that we shouldn't be judging people unless we have walked in their shoes! Not even that we shouldn't judge people. We need to love them for who they are.
There has been half a dozen times where I could have put something on my blog just to get a point across but what good comes from that. Why not just talk to someone face to face? Everytime I have put something on my blog out of anger, or to get my point across it bit me in the butt, and has hurt people that I care about.
In the situation talked about, Yes it would be a ton easier to tell the truth about every time I go to my moms and hang out with her. but for me it easier to just to be quiet about what I am doing than to even deal with the crap I have to when I am honest about what I am doing. I don't enjoy coming from a split family. But I also don't enjoy hurting feelings either. So when I feel like I can be honest about what I am doing then I am, but when I know that someone is going to get their feelings hurt I tend to be more hush hush. Oh I know that it's not good, but please don't judge me till you have been put in my situation.
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Everything you do isn't everyone's business- you don't have to report to anyone and I don't think you are hiding things- if people ask then tell them otherwise I think it is just fine to keep things to yourself! I have been in similar situations with my split family and I know what you mean about keeping it quiet as to not hurt others feelings- it is a no win situation and I think the most important thing is if your intentions are good- and yours were!
I agree with you Heidi, at the same time, I use my blog to vent at times but it's hard when the person you're venting about does read it, You have to be careful that's for sure.
heidi, i'm so sorry to hear you've been sick and that josh will be gone for another three weeks. that's hard, but i will call you and take some of the kids for you. also, you can come over and visit anytime, we'd love to hang out with you.
Heidi - I think that many of us use our blogs to vent at times and often times either the person reads it or a friend of theirs does - so it's a fine line. However, I think that if you have something to say - then you should - and if you dont' want to - then that's your business, just like Katie said! Split families are hard to deal with - especially if they don't get along. But you don't have to please everyone - just yourself and your family. So don't worry - be happy! we love you and if you need a break - or need to vent - just come on over!
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