Wednesday, April 9, 2008

How do people live with themselves?

Have you ever run across someone who sticks their nose up at you? Who thinks That they are better than you? Or that they are perfect and above making mistakes? Or that if they do make a mistake, that they should be forgiven. But when you make a mistake they aren't willing to forgive. They hold it over your head!
Well let me tell you there is nothing fun about it. How many times do you need to say I am sorry? How can people expect you to forgive them when they can't forgive you. If you truly care about people you are willing to see past their mistakes. And No one is better than anyone! We all do things differently. People don't set out to offend people. friends don't mean to hurt each other, and are willing to talk things over and forgive. In my life I have a big circle of friends and family. Things are said that people take the wrong way. How do you fix it? You talk about it. Can you imagine what life would be like if we all held grudges! I think of my friends like my family, I love you all. I hope that you all know that. There is nothing more important to me than my friends and family.We shouldn't let the little things destroy the big things.We can all choose to be offend in the end the decision is ours.

"Certainly clumsy, embarrassing, unprincipled, and mean spirited
things do occur in our interactions with other people that would allow us
to take offense. However, it ultimately is impossible for another person to
offend you or to offend me. Indeed, believing that another person offended
us is fundamentally false. To be offended is a choice we make; it is not a
condition inflicted or imposed upon us by someone or something
else."
Topics: choices, attitude, relationships, offense

(David A. Bednar, "And Nothing Shall Offend Them," Ensign, Nov. 2006, 90)

2 comments:

Christy Woolston said...

Loved that talk by David Bednar! We choose our attitudes and our reactions and actions in every aspect of our lives. If we have a bad day...we chose to allow ourselves to have a bad day. It is truly all up to us.

Unknown said...

I have found that sometimes it is hard to forgive- I am human. However I have learned that forgiveness doesn't mean I have to be that person's best friend either. I can forgive and create a different relationship with them than I previously had which might result in a better one or a less interactive one. I choose the one that will be healthy for me. On the other end I have also learned that I can't choose HOW and WHEN people should forgive me. That is their own personal decision and I have to let it go.